JP hasn’t been feeling well this week. We are up bright and early today to take him in to the Pediatrician. Even though it’s only been a few days of not feeling well for him, those days seem unending. He is super clingy and the whining is non-stop.
Last night felt like a breaking point for me. I hadn’t been able to run for two days and my dear husband, Joe, was working. It was just me and a sick toddler. It was also a parenting first for me to take care of him by myself with little help.
I got to the point of being so tired last night. My stress levels were at an unbelievable high. I had a crying & sick toddler combined with a nervous & whining dog from fireworks (yep– still happening in Georgia after 4th of July). I just wanted to binge eat Goldfish in shame. But I felt guilty: guilty for being tired, guilty for being stressed and guilty for wanting to pass it over to my husband after his long day at work.
But is being tired such a bad thing? The media portrays “Super Moms” who can do it all now. These artificial moms can work full time, keep a house clean, satisfy their husbands while the kids are happily playing. It’s no wonder I feel guilty when I can’t juggle one kid while keeping the house clean and just working part time.
I call BS on the artificial Mom! It’s not reality and it’s a bogus standard. As Moms, we need to stop comparing ourselves to this artificial standard. It’s only causing guilt over normal emotional states, like being tired. Covering ourselves with this guilt only hurts our children more.
It’s OK to be tired.
It’s OK to ask for help.
It’s OK to be happy after the kids bedtime.
It’s OK to have a messy house.
We need to focus on ourselves and our family more. If we can let this artificial idea of a super Mom go, we can free ourselves of the guilt! Today is a new day for me. I’m going to allow myself to cry if I need to or ask my husband for help. I will take care of myself my by working out and getting myself dressed. This helps make me the best Mom I can be for JP. He needs my version of Mom– not the artificial super Mom from the media.
Hopefully JP can feel better after our doctor appointment today. But I’ve learned some valuable lessons about Motherhood these past few days. Every time an event, good or bad, happens, it shapes me as a Mother. I’m glad I can decifer myself from the artificial Mom and rise above it.